How do you know if someone — or a small group — is truly a friend?
An anonymous psychologist once said that if a friendship lasts more than seven years, it’s likely to last a lifetime. But how many of these lasting friendships can we actually have?
British anthropologist Robin Dunbar suggests that people can only maintain around 150 social relationships, including family, close friends, and acquaintances. Within this group, there are smaller circles we consider “close friends.”
These are the friends who bring us happiness and make us feel we belong. They are the ones who show up when we need support. But only time can tell if they will accept our unique traits and stay by our side.
Fair-Weather Friends
Over the years, I’ve built friendships with both men and women. In our younger days, we called this group our “barkada.” Some of these friendships have lasted, and when we meet, it feels like no time has passed.
However, I’ve also learned that some people form friendships for personal gain. They may be interested in our social status, job, or connections. These “friendly” people often disappear when they no longer need us.
I remember someone who held an important government position. When she was replaced, the friends she thought were loyal disappeared.
What Makes a True Friend?
During our busy, productive years, true friends stay in touch. With today’s technology, it’s easier than ever to reach out. There’s no excuse not to keep in contact.
Friendships thrive on open communication. We should be able to share anything without worrying about being judged. Life is full of ups and downs, and true friends listen, understand, and support us. Loyalty and trust keep the bond strong.
Healthy friendships also respect boundaries. It’s important not to take a friend’s time for granted. Sending a quick message to ask if they’re free to talk shows respect.
Friendship and Time
As we grow older, our social circle becomes smaller. Only a few friends stay close enough to rely on and spend time with.
Traveling together is one way to test the strength of a friendship. Sharing experiences and overcoming challenges can show how strong your bond really is.
It’s never too late to go on new adventures with friends. When friends move away, we may feel separation anxiety. But regular communication and updates help keep the connection alive.
Friendships that are nurtured over time become stronger. Even if we’re far apart, the bonds that have survived more than seven years and the test of time remain unbreakable.
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