...The wrong match does not just break hearts. It breaks futures.
In love life, a true matchmaker does not push two hearts together and hope for magic. They listen. They observe values, temperament, timing, and intention. They ask: Are these two people walking toward the same future...or merely enjoying the same moment? Chemistry may ignite attraction, but compatibility sustains commitment. Without it, convenience becomes quiet misery.
Why do relationships fail, then?
Is it because love was absent....or because clarity was?
Mismatched lovers rarely lack attraction. More often, they lack alignment. One dreams of roots, the other of wings. One longs for peace, the other feeds on chaos. The matchmaker’s role is not to be romantic, but to be honest: What do you stand for? What will you protect? What will you sacrifice? Who are you when no one is watching?
If these questions matter in love, why do we abandon them in politics?
Voters often meet leaders through posters, jingles, and viral sound bites. Is that not the political version of love at first sight....emotional, intoxicating, and dangerously shallow? But leadership, like love, is not a fling. It is a long-term relationship, with consequences that linger long after the excitement fades.
So who is the matchmaker in politics?
Is it the media? Institutions? Civil society? Or is it the voter who refuses to be rushed?
A political matchmaker asks a harder question: Is this leader compatible with our real problems? Not fashionable issues, but enduring ones....corruption, poverty, education, healthcare, justice. Charm cannot fix systems. Passion cannot replace competence.
What makes a good leader, then?
Perfection or consistency?
Good leaders resemble good partners. Their words align with their actions. Their past does not betray their promises. They do not disappear after elections the way careless lovers vanish after getting what they want.
And what about timing?
Would you advise a grieving soul to rush into reckless romance? Then why offer a wounded nation a reckless leader? A country in crisis needs a stabilizer, not a showman. A growing nation needs a builder, not a destroyer. Timing, too, is part of the match.
Why do good people fail in politics?
Is it lack of talent or poor matching?
A visionary trapped in a system that rewards loyalty over competence will wither. A decent leader suffocated by fear will compromise or quit. Matchmaking is not only about choosing leaders; it is about creating conditions where the right leaders can survive.
So what is the lesson?
In love, we learn often painfully that choosing well matters more than choosing fast. Should democracy learn any differently? Elections are not speed dating. They are commitments.
Next election, be a matchmaker. Ask better questions. Reject charming mismatches. Choose alignment over attraction.
And if you are longing for love...do the same. Find a better matchmaker for your heart.
Because the wrong match does not just break hearts.
It breaks futures.
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