I don’t get it. They attend networking events - and yet they don’t want to engage with anyone. Have you experienced being with people like this - whether in person or online?
Here are some familiar scenarios.
l When you ask them what they do for a living, they reply:
“Ay, I’m not prepared!” For what? What’s the point in going to networking events if you don’t want to network?
l They do not participate during the Question and Answer portion even if they have so many questions in mind. And then they complain that they didn’t learn anything new.
l No matter how we make efforts to include them in the conversation, they fail to reply with even just a simple yes or no. All you see is empty stares.
A quick consult online says:
SOCIAL AWKWARDNESS - the feeling we experience when we believe that our desire for being accepted by others is threatened in a given situation
They’re afraid of being judged, but because of their behavior, they don’t make a good impression.
Rise above social awkwardness so you don’t end up saying these lines.
l I have something in mind, but I don’t know what to say.
l The other people sound much brighter than me.
l I’m not confident enough.
Reminder: A quick check online provides basic information about the speaker. That will give you interesting talking points for conversation.
Here’s some good news. You don’t have to be a genius. Ask for clarification when you don’t understand. People are happy to know that you’re interested in what they’re saying.
TIPS AND TECHNIQUES
Make sure you are ready with your script before attending events.
l Introduce yourself.
l State what you expect to learn or get from the event.
Do your homework.
1. Practice saying who you are and what you do.
2. Video record yourself - and review.
3. Make sure you deliver your lines in a conversational tone.
4. Look friendly when you say it.
5. Remember to smile.
Take a deep breath. Relax. You are now ready to socialize with ease. Enjoy!