Riding the rollercoaster of unrequited love
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Riding The Rollercoaster Of Unrequited Love

Feb 2, 2024, 1:39 PM
Vivien Mangalindan

Vivien Mangalindan

Columnist

A love-note for lovers - and others - on Valentine’s Day (just around the corner).

THE BACK STORY

Let's talk about unrequited love - that messy rollercoaster situation some of us have been through.

  • Picture standing in the rain - heart wide open - hoping that someone special will join you. But no, they’re under a different umbrella - clueless about the storm inside you.

THE CHALLENGE OF UNREQUITED LOVE

Unrequited love is exactly that - wanting someone to feel what you feel. But it's like shouting in a soundproof room.

  • Daydreams become your escape route. You start imagining scenarios where they're as into you as you are into them.
  • It's a beautiful illusion - offering a brief escape from reality.

But guess what? The bubble bursts - and you're back to realizing that your feelings are on a solo mission.

UNRECIPROCATED COMMUNICATION

The phone-checking routine. It's like a reflex - hoping for a text message that might never light up your screen. The disappointment hits hard when you realize that the messages are more like one-way monologues.

  • Your emotions are just left hanging - like an unread text slowly fading into the digital silence.

SUBTLE SIGNS AND REALIZATIONS

Subtle signs. It’s the avoidance of eye contact and steering clear of any romantic talks. And those silent cues screaming louder than any words - suggesting that the emotional seesaw is a bit one-sided

  • The real kick in the gut? Finding out they're off investing their affections elsewhere.

LESSONS FROM UNREQUITED LOVE

Hold on. It's not all gloom and doom. Unrequited love has its silver lining - teaching you some real-life lessons. It's a crash course in emotional toughness, reminding you that your worth isn't tied to someone else's feelings.

  • Life doesn't stop for unrequited love. It just keeps going - prompting you to come along for the ride.

SELF-LOVE AS THE HERO

Self-love becomes the hero of this story. While you're pouring your heart into someone else - you forget the most important person: you.

  • Unrequited love is the wake-up call to redirect that love back to yourself - building a relationship that's unbreakable and long-lasting.

ACCEPTANCE AND GROWTH

There's a valuable lesson in acceptance. Not every crush will blossom into a mutual love story. And that's quite alright.

Getting real about this opens up:

  • Chances for personal growth
  • A better grasp of your own emotions

CHOOSE SELF-LOVE

Let the pain of unrequited love be your key to bouncing back emotionally. Take all that love you were throwing at someone else and sling it right back at yourself.

  • Choose self-love as the VIP pass for future relationships, making sure that your emotional well-being stands strong and unshaken.

TIPS AND TECHNIQUES

In the grand movie of life, unrequited love is just one chapter. It’s tough- but it's shaping you into the self-assured person you're becoming.

Here's the plan:

  • Weather those storms
  • Come out stronger
  • Hold that umbrella high

Let your heart heal on its own sweet time.

Remember: Embrace self-love and growth as you ride the emotional rollercoaster - moving on from unrequited love.

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