We live in a digital age - and our phones are basically our sidekicks. We spend a lot of time on social media. But here's the thing: why is it even called "social" media when it can sometimes feel like the opposite of hanging out with friends?
THE BACK STORY
When Instagram and TikTok burst onto the scene, they promised to help us connect with people around the world. It seemed like a great idea - to make new friends, share your life and chat with others without leaving your room.
REALITY CHECK
Let's face it - sometimes it feels like we're not really connecting at all. Think about that last event you went to. Instead of talking, everyone was on their phones - taking selfies and updating their stories.
Scene One
- At the last event, remember how you and your friends spent a lot of time taking pictures for Instagram?
- It was fun - but it also felt like you were more interested in getting the perfect shot than just enjoying the moment together.
FILTERS AND LIKES: THE UNREAL SIDE OF ‘SOCIAL’
On social media, we often try to show only our best side. We use filters, craft clever captions, and hunt for likes and comments. It's like a competition for popularity. But real socializing isn't about how many likes you get on a photo. It's about having genuine conversations and building real connections.
Scene Two
- You posted a picture from your last weekend event on Instagram.
- You spent more time picking the right filter and thinking of a clever caption than you did enjoying the beautiful view.
- Sure, you got lots of likes - but did it really capture the true value of your experience?
DEALING WITH CYBERBULLYING
Another thing to know is that social media isn't always a friendly place. Some people hide behind fake usernames to be mean or hurtful. It's not the kind of socializing we should be aiming for.
Scene Three
- You've probably heard about online bullying at work - or even seen it happen.
- People can say hurtful things online that they'd never say face-to-face.
- It's a reminder that the ‘social’ in social media isn't always about being friendly.
MISSING OUT ON REAL LIFE
Spending too much time on social media might mean we're missing out on real-life moments. Do you remember that family dinner where everyone was glued to their screens? You might have felt connected to your friends online - but in reality, you were missing out on quality family time.
Scene Four
- At your family dinner, everyone was on their phones - including you.
- Even though you were connecting with friends online - you missed the chance to connect with your family right there at the table.
TIPS AND TECHNIQUES
The name "social" media can be a bit misleading. It's not always the best place for real socializing. Let’s use social media to connect with others in a positive way - both online and in the real world.
Remember:
Being 'social' should be more than just tapping on a screen. Let's have authentic conversations and make some real connections.
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