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Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

Feb 24, 2023, 5:30 AM
Vivien Mangalindan

Vivien Mangalindan

Columnist

Are you in the habit of comparing yourself to others? Doing that can become a problem in the long run.

Let’s see now. What’s the first thing you do when you wake up? Do you grab your cellphone to see what’s new? Perhaps, you start comparing yourself to others - and become unhappy so early in the day.

GOOD DAY, BAD DAY

Here are some things that could happen to you when you start your day with ‘comparing’.

A person you don’t like gets a promotion and posts pictures online. You see her tribe celebrating with her. Feel like a loser, you start drooling with envy.

Worse, you see posts congratulating her, and start bashing those whose comments are contrary to your opinion.

Worst of all, you then see the word ‘SALE’ in an advertisement for an item you really want, and quickly go on impulse-buying mode, just to feel better about yourself.

SIDE-EFFECTS

Comparing yourself to others can have negative effects.

Your unhappy thoughts might make it difficult for you to focus on the tasks at hand.

Anxiety and depression could make you feel sorry for yourself.

Your CLICK on the word ‘SALE’ could put a dent in your budget.

TIPS AND TECHNIQUES

Practice gratitude. Remember the parable of the child who was crying because he had no shoes? One day, he realized that there was someone with bigger reasons to be unhappy. He saw a child with no feet. Be grateful for what you have.

See the bigger picture. Social media does NOT always reflect reality. Stop focusing on what it looks like other people have. For all you know, they are just projecting an image of what they want you to believe.

Think about this. Just because some people are winning does NOT mean you are losing.

DECIDE to have a good day. Focus on your goals. Compete with yourself - not against others. One step at a time. One day at a time.

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